Wednesday, May 1, 2013

Researchers: Stop using the word 'bullying' in school

By Greg Toppo
USA Today

SAN FRANCISCO – Schools that want to do a better job fighting bullying ought to start with one key step, a group of researchers said Tuesday: Stop using the term "bullying."
Because it's "being used for everything from rolling eyes to 'not wanting to be your friend' to sexual assault, the word 'bullying' has really obscured our ability to focus on what's happening" to children, said Dorothy Espelage of the University of Illinois.

Educators have been "spinning our wheels for decades" in a bid to treat bullying, but they're often hampered by policies that require mistreatment to be repetitive, for example, part of the classic definition of bullying. That focus also obscures whether specific acts are happening more or less, she said.
Espelage co-led a group of researchers that worked for a year to produce a new primer on bullying, released here on Tuesday at the annual meeting of the American Educational Research Association, the USA's largest education research organization. The association commissioned the research last year in the wake of several high-profile bullying cases and school shootings.

Espelage has served as an expert witness in legal cases in which a child committed suicide after being bullied. In several cases, she said, school staff members said in depositions that they were waiting for the alleged bullying behaviors to be repeated so they could treat them as bullying, in accordance with school policies. "In some ways, our obsession with 'What is it?' has stalled us in creating safe schools," she said. "The bottom line is, kids are being victimized – let's move on from that."

A helpful way to look at the problem, she said, is to consider how colleges treat behavior such as hazing or sexual harassment. "To call what's happening with 18-to-22-year-olds 'bullying,' when in fact some of it is criminal behavior … it's a disaster," she said.
Espelage and a colleague, Ron Astor of the University of Southern California, are pushing for schools to use the more simple term "victimization."

Astor acknowledged the irony of the idea: Speaking to a small group of reporters, he said of the booklet they produced, "If this was titled 'Victimization,' you wouldn't be here."

Overprotected children 'more likely to be bullied'


Overprotected children 'more likely to be bullied'



Children who have overprotective parents are more likely to be bullied by their peers, research suggests.
A review of 70 studies looking at 200,000 children suggests parents who "buffer" children from negative experiences make them more vulnerable.
But children who have harsh or negative parents are most likely to be bullied, it finds.
Prof Dieter Wolke said everyone looked at schools, but his study says bullying really starts at home.
The University of Warwick-based psychology professor said he was expecting to find that children with the harshest parents were most likely to become prey to bullies.
But he said he was somewhat surprised to discover that children with overprotective parents were also at an increased risk of bullying.
 
'Deal with conflict'
He said: "Although parental involvement, support and high supervision decrease the chances of children being involved in bullying, for victims - overprotection increased this risk.

“Parenting that includes clear rules about behaviour while being supportive and emotionally warm is most likely to prevent victimisation” Prof Dieter Wolke University of Warwick

"Children need support but some parents try to buffer their children from all negative experiences. In the process, they prevent their children from learning ways of dealing with bullies and make them more vulnerable."
He added: "It is as if children need to have some distress so that they know how to deal with conflict. If the parents all the time do it for them then the children don't have any coping strategies and are more likely targets."
Bullying was defined as repeated instances over a six-month period, rather than just one-off conflicts in the playground.
He said the research suggested bullies find dominance by targeting the children they find to be the most vulnerable - picking again on the ones who cry or run away after an initial attack.
So the way a child reacts to an initial instance of bullying has repercussions for what the bullies do next. Once they have established who to target they increase their dominance by repeatedly victimising them.
 
'Clear rules'
The research, which covered a number of European countries and the US, also found that children who were bullied by their siblings were more likely to be victims as well.
Prof Wolke said: "Parenting that includes clear rules about behaviour while being supportive and emotionally warm is most likely to prevent victimisation.
"These parents allow children to have some conflicts with peers to learn how to solve them rather than intervene at the smallest argument."
Overall he found that 32% of children said they had been bullied over the previous six months. Some 10 to 14% went on to be chronic bullying victims.
The study was published in the journal of Child Abuse and Neglect.

Tuesday, April 30, 2013

Want to Boost Your Self-Esteem? Throw Away Someone Else’s Trash

Written by Gretchen Rubin

Self-esteem is a topic that has generated a fair amount of controversy over the last few decades, but one thing seems clear: you don’t get healthy self-esteem from constantly telling yourself how great you are, or even from other people telling you how great you are.
You do boost your self-esteem when you keep a difficult resolution, meet a challenge, solve a problem, learn a skill, or cross something unpleasant off your to-do list. And one of the best ways to feel better about yourself is to help someone else. Do good, feel good.
I had a friend who went through a period of tremendous rejection: she was fired from her job, she was rejected from a graduate program, and her boyfriend broke up with her. Everything worked out fine, and I asked her how she got through such a tough time. She said, “I was practically addicted to doing good deeds. It was the only way I could make myself feel like I wasn’t a total loser.

I recently performed a very small good deed that gave me a boost: I threw away someone else’s trash. I’ve always been careful to throw away my own litter, but it never occurred to me to do anything about random litter lying around.
The other day, though, I was in the subway, where an empty Snapple bottle was rolling around to the great annoyance of everyone in the car. The bottle rolled back and forth, and I thought, “Someone should pick that up.” Then I thought—“Someone like me! Why shouldn’t I be the one to pick it up?” So I did. I was astonished by the surge of good feeling I got, quite disproportionate to such a minor action.
Since then, I’ve looked for chances to throw away other people’s trash. Newspapers strewn across seats in the airport, coffee cups abandoned on counters, that kind of thing. (Want more ideas? Look at these tips.)
Do good, feel good” is a happiness truism that really is true. Act like a considerate citizen of the world, and you’ll also boost your self-esteem. How about you? Have you felt a boost in your feelings of self-worth after doing something worthwhile?

Tuesday, April 9, 2013

Press Release - Project Peaceful Purple (April 8, 2013)



FOR IMMEDIATE RELEASE

Project Peaceful Purple aims to unite, inspire, and empower people to stop bullying

Rockville, Maryland – April 7, 2013 – Project Peaceful Purple has created purple earphones that are meant to unite, inspire, and empower people who are dealing with bullying. Rather than focusing on ways to combat the bullies directly, their mission is to promote raising one’s self-esteem and self-confidence through a positive movement.

These purple earbuds are special because not only are they a symbol of anti-bullying, but they also utilize an HDSS sound technology that is new, effective, and makes a rather inexpensive earphone sound like top notch quality. HDSS sound, developed by a Georgia family, is slated to bring a new standard to earbuds.

Project Peaceful Purple is devoted to making a difference. A portion of the proceeds from every sale of these earphones will be donated to local youth empowerment programs. Every set of earphones sold helps defeat bullies.

Sadly, bullying is growing and surfacing in many different forms especially with the ubiquity of the Internet. It is important for students, parents, and schools to all get involved with trying to stop the bullying epidemic in order to promote positive self-esteem and self-image for children and adolescents everywhere.

Purplepeace4.jpgProject Peaceful Purple has said, “Our goal is to sell 1 million earphones by World Day of Bullying Prevention in October 2014.” To learn more about Project Peaceful Purple and how to purchase a pair of these inspiring earbuds, visit the company’s website at www.purple-buds.com.

About Project Peaceful Purple:
Project Peaceful Purple is a campaign aimed to increase awareness of bullying, cyber bullying, workplace harassment and related issues for youth, parents, young adults, adults, educators and the general public. Their objective is to inspire pro-social friendships, acceptance and instill a sense of hope in the future. The focus of the project is to aid in the building of youth self-esteem, self-confidence, and self-respect by supporting youth empowerment programs and organizations.

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Tots2Teens Expo presented by The Better Family

We are totally excited to be exhibiting at this years #Tots2Teens Expo, April 20th,2013 at the DC Convention Center. 
Project Peaceful Purple will be at Booth#726. Please stop by if you can. 
Free Admission
http://www.thebetterfamily.com 

Friday, February 22, 2013

Annoucing the Winner of the Peaceful Purple Contest from the Girls World Expo Jan 5th, 2013

Contest winner!!1
On January 5th, 2013 - We participated in the Girls World Expo held at the Washington Convention Center. We posted pictures of our booth a few weeks ago. The pictures can also be viewed here in the photo album.

We had so many wonderful people visit our booth, learn about our mission, purchase our awesome purple Listen Up! Awareness ear buds, as well as enter to win a Project Peaceful Purple inscribed Apple iPod Shuffle.
So we want to officially announce the winner of these incredible prizes!!
To do so we created a video..