tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4526624977664942452015-01-26T11:52:36.826-08:00Project Peaceful Purplea place to find inner piece, a place to learn to wind down and let go, a place of calm. CP'S Blogsnoreply@blogger.comBlogger60125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-452662497766494245.post-76553316452524237372015-01-22T11:13:00.001-08:002015-01-22T11:15:38.843-08:00"Happy Meals", Introducing our feel good recipe section<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on"><br />Although the boxed variety of macaroni and <a href="http://science.howstuffworks.com/innovation/edible-innovations/cheese.htm">cheese</a> is a childhood favorite, the homemade kind is really the best way to go when indulging in this comfort food. The dairy products standard in this recipe (milk and cheese) contain high levels of <a href="http://health.howstuffworks.com/wellness/food-nutrition/vitamin-supplements/vitamin-b.htm">vitamin B</a>, which has been shown to heavily impact the brain. In fact, studies indicate that depression can often be lessened when a deficiency of folic acid (a type of B vitamin) is corrected. Similarly, normal levels of riboflavin (B2), B6 and thiamine (B1) have been proven to boost mood in multiple studies [source: <a href="http://www.usaweekend.com/99_issues/990103/990103eatsmart.html">Carper</a>]. Coupling the mood-enhancing effects of dairy with multigrain macaroni helps the meal pack a powerful punch.<br />If you've sworn off pasta, consider this: Carbohydrates increase serotonin and endorphin levels, cranking up good mood vibes and energy levels simultaneously. Experts recommend switching from regular pasta to the multigrain variety because it counts toward recommended daily servings of whole grains [source: <a href="http://www.parents.com/recipes/nutrition/parents/comfort-foods-made-healthy/">Cohen</a>].<br /><br />Recipe:<br /><br /><a href="http://www.jasonandshawnda.com/foodiebride/archives/14350/" target="_blank">Bacon and Pea Macaroni & Cheese </a><br /><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="http://3.bp.blogspot.com/-s_ujyrNtL3I/VMFLt-kYPoI/AAAAAAAAAHg/Yb4YpHU2JX0/s1600/bacon%2Bmac%2Band%2Bcheese.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" src="http://3.bp.blogspot.com/-s_ujyrNtL3I/VMFLt-kYPoI/AAAAAAAAAHg/Yb4YpHU2JX0/s1600/bacon%2Bmac%2Band%2Bcheese.jpg" height="320" width="320" /></a></div><br /><br /></div>CP'S Blogsnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-452662497766494245.post-19505638187581799082015-01-21T15:16:00.001-08:002015-01-21T15:16:31.110-08:00One step forward.. two steps back<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on"><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><object width="320" height="266" class="BLOGGER-youtube-video" classid="clsid:D27CDB6E-AE6D-11cf-96B8-444553540000" codebase="http://download.macromedia.com/pub/shockwave/cabs/flash/swflash.cab#version=6,0,40,0" data-thumbnail-src="https://ytimg.googleusercontent.com/vi/iKVQX35yYc8/0.jpg"><param name="movie" value="https://youtube.googleapis.com/v/iKVQX35yYc8&source=uds" /><param name="bgcolor" value="#FFFFFF" /><param name="allowFullScreen" value="true" /><embed width="320" height="266" src="https://youtube.googleapis.com/v/iKVQX35yYc8&source=uds" type="application/x-shockwave-flash" allowfullscreen="true"></embed></object></div>Are we moving forward at all? After viewing videos like this it makes it hard to believe..<br /><br />WARNING: There is excessive use of the n-word and some other strong language. I believe these are the types of videos that need to go viral. Shame on the man and his children for how they behaved. Kudos to this dad for wanting to protect his gorgeous little girl.<br /><br /></div>CP'S Blogsnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-452662497766494245.post-50562839018019770152015-01-07T11:42:00.001-08:002015-01-07T11:42:10.519-08:00<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">Changes are in the works.. Stay tuned! </div>CP'S Blogsnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-452662497766494245.post-44413498845549592782014-02-12T06:23:00.001-08:002014-02-12T06:23:36.509-08:00Neglect of a Blog..We must apologize <div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">We have been terrible at keeping up with our blog posts in the past 6 months. We had been concentrating on optimizing our revamped website, <a href="http://www.purple-buds.com/">www.purple-buds.com</a>, as well as our twitter and instagram account. You can find us by way of #purplebuds.<br />Our Listen Up! Antibully Awareness earphones are on sale for awhile. Please get a pair and post up you enjoying them via Instagram or Twitter. We would love to see your smile. </div>CP'S Blogsnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-452662497766494245.post-65642284445200976582013-07-23T11:20:00.000-07:002013-07-23T11:20:02.710-07:00Your Passion! Leora Rosenberg likes to beat box.<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on"><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><object width="320" height="266" class="BLOG_video_class" id="BLOG_video-9a9e981c720c18c3" classid="clsid:D27CDB6E-AE6D-11cf-96B8-444553540000" codebase="http://download.macromedia.com/pub/shockwave/cabs/flash/swflash.cab#version=6,0,40,0"><param name="movie" value="//www.youtube.com/get_player"><param name="bgcolor" value="#FFFFFF"><param name="allowfullscreen" value="true"><param name="flashvars" value="flvurl=http://redirector.googlevideo.com/videoplayback?id%3D9a9e981c720c18c3%26itag%3D5%26source%3Dblogger%26app%3Dblogger%26cmo%3Dsensitive_content%3Dyes%26ip%3D0.0.0.0%26ipbits%3D0%26expire%3D1424457163%26sparams%3Dip,ipbits,expire,id,itag,source%26signature%3D5D06915E26C4ED5A83C139D165C0B5E6E7CBF5DB.1BA5F804788D65F0EA3AB77F2238C2D0DD34184C%26key%3Dck2&iurl=http://video.google.com/ThumbnailServer2?app%3Dblogger%26contentid%3D9a9e981c720c18c3%26offsetms%3D5000%26itag%3Dw160%26sigh%3Dg4jDx1nuDyWpxO_Q94Dsve9UHIM&autoplay=0&ps=blogger"><embed src="//www.youtube.com/get_player" type="application/x-shockwave-flash" width="320" height="266" bgcolor="#FFFFFF" flashvars="flvurl=http://redirector.googlevideo.com/videoplayback?id%3D9a9e981c720c18c3%26itag%3D5%26source%3Dblogger%26app%3Dblogger%26cmo%3Dsensitive_content%3Dyes%26ip%3D0.0.0.0%26ipbits%3D0%26expire%3D1424457163%26sparams%3Dip,ipbits,expire,id,itag,source%26signature%3D5D06915E26C4ED5A83C139D165C0B5E6E7CBF5DB.1BA5F804788D65F0EA3AB77F2238C2D0DD34184C%26key%3Dck2&iurl=http://video.google.com/ThumbnailServer2?app%3Dblogger%26contentid%3D9a9e981c720c18c3%26offsetms%3D5000%26itag%3Dw160%26sigh%3Dg4jDx1nuDyWpxO_Q94Dsve9UHIM&autoplay=0&ps=blogger" allowFullScreen="true" /></object></div>In our efforts to combat bullying by way of raising self-esteem in individuals, we will be posting a few videos submitted by these amazingly talented Peaceful Purple supporters displaying their pastime (while wearing our Listen Up! earphones.)<br /> Self-esteem levels can be raised by doing what your enjoy - your Passion! <br /> <br /> Leora Rosenberg likes to beat box.</div>CP'S Blogsnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-452662497766494245.post-20885895438718531692013-07-23T11:15:00.002-07:002013-07-23T11:15:24.616-07:00Ask Amy<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on"><a href="http://www.upworthy.com/a-super-simple-way-to-banish-bullies-that-is-100-worth-trying-at-home-2?c=ufb1" target="_blank">Ask Amy.. A Simpler Way to Banish Bullies </a><br /></div>CP'S Blogsnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-452662497766494245.post-8467801299199659362013-07-01T12:28:00.001-07:002013-07-01T12:28:08.373-07:00Peaceful Purple supporters displaying their pastime - their Passion.. <div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">In our efforts to combat bullying by way of raising self-esteem in individuals, we will be posting a few videos submitted by these amazingly talented Peaceful Purple supporters displaying their pastime (while wearing our Listen Up! earphones.) <br /> Self-esteem levels can be raised by doing what your enjoy - your Passion! <br /> <br /> Here is Zev Medoff playing the ukulele..<br /><br /><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><object width="320" height="266" class="BLOG_video_class" id="BLOG_video-fdf196dfe7f246f9" classid="clsid:D27CDB6E-AE6D-11cf-96B8-444553540000" codebase="http://download.macromedia.com/pub/shockwave/cabs/flash/swflash.cab#version=6,0,40,0"><param name="movie" value="//www.youtube.com/get_player"><param name="bgcolor" value="#FFFFFF"><param name="allowfullscreen" value="true"><param name="flashvars" value="flvurl=http://redirector.googlevideo.com/videoplayback?id%3Dfdf196dfe7f246f9%26itag%3D5%26source%3Dblogger%26app%3Dblogger%26cmo%3Dsensitive_content%3Dyes%26ip%3D0.0.0.0%26ipbits%3D0%26expire%3D1424457163%26sparams%3Dip,ipbits,expire,id,itag,source%26signature%3D95FE78BFB105FB83121A43A53DCCE3127C8CF3D3.461FDAFA0B4BB2BC63DC111BF67BE6F6E099F382%26key%3Dck2&iurl=http://video.google.com/ThumbnailServer2?app%3Dblogger%26contentid%3Dfdf196dfe7f246f9%26offsetms%3D5000%26itag%3Dw160%26sigh%3DPTNlLvbnZjrYa88qu9Cnd7Fubnw&autoplay=0&ps=blogger"><embed src="//www.youtube.com/get_player" type="application/x-shockwave-flash" width="320" height="266" bgcolor="#FFFFFF" flashvars="flvurl=http://redirector.googlevideo.com/videoplayback?id%3Dfdf196dfe7f246f9%26itag%3D5%26source%3Dblogger%26app%3Dblogger%26cmo%3Dsensitive_content%3Dyes%26ip%3D0.0.0.0%26ipbits%3D0%26expire%3D1424457163%26sparams%3Dip,ipbits,expire,id,itag,source%26signature%3D95FE78BFB105FB83121A43A53DCCE3127C8CF3D3.461FDAFA0B4BB2BC63DC111BF67BE6F6E099F382%26key%3Dck2&iurl=http://video.google.com/ThumbnailServer2?app%3Dblogger%26contentid%3Dfdf196dfe7f246f9%26offsetms%3D5000%26itag%3Dw160%26sigh%3DPTNlLvbnZjrYa88qu9Cnd7Fubnw&autoplay=0&ps=blogger" allowFullScreen="true" /></object></div></div>CP'S Blogsnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-452662497766494245.post-70943777344248236852013-06-10T13:43:00.002-07:002013-06-10T13:43:07.729-07:00A downside to high teen self-esteem? <div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on"><!--[if gte mso 9]><xml> <w:WordDocument> <w:View>Normal</w:View> <w:Zoom>0</w:Zoom> <w:PunctuationKerning/> <w:ValidateAgainstSchemas/> <w:SaveIfXMLInvalid>false</w:SaveIfXMLInvalid> <w:IgnoreMixedContent>false</w:IgnoreMixedContent> <w:AlwaysShowPlaceholderText>false</w:AlwaysShowPlaceholderText> <w:Compatibility> <w:BreakWrappedTables/> <w:SnapToGridInCell/> <w:WrapTextWithPunct/> <w:UseAsianBreakRules/> <w:DontGrowAutofit/> </w:Compatibility> <w:BrowserLevel>MicrosoftInternetExplorer4</w:BrowserLevel> </w:WordDocument></xml><![endif]--><br /><!--[if gte mso 9]><xml> <w:LatentStyles DefLockedState="false" LatentStyleCount="156"> </w:LatentStyles></xml><![endif]--><!--[if gte mso 10]><style> /* Style Definitions */ table.MsoNormalTable {mso-style-name:"Table Normal"; mso-tstyle-rowband-size:0; mso-tstyle-colband-size:0; mso-style-noshow:yes; mso-style-parent:""; mso-padding-alt:0in 5.4pt 0in 5.4pt; mso-para-margin:0in; mso-para-margin-bottom:.0001pt; mso-pagination:widow-orphan; font-size:10.0pt; font-family:"Times New Roman"; mso-ansi-language:#0400; mso-fareast-language:#0400; mso-bidi-language:#0400;} </style><![endif]--> <br /><div class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family: Calibri; font-size: 11.0pt;">A downside to high teen self-esteem?</span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><a href="http://articles.chicagotribune.com/2010-07-04/news/ct-met-teen-self-esteem-20100704_1_self-esteem-jean-twenge-praised"><span style="font-family: Calibri;">http://articles.chicagotribune.com/2010-07-04/news/ct-met-teen-self-esteem-20100704_1_self-esteem-jean-twenge-praised</span></a><span style="font-family: Calibri; font-size: 11.0pt;"> </span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family: Calibri; font-size: 11.0pt;">John Keilman, Chicago Tribune</span></div></div>CP'S Blogsnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-452662497766494245.post-14223882781415825842013-06-04T08:16:00.000-07:002013-06-04T08:16:43.335-07:00Huffington Post: Amy Schumer Talks Self-Esteem and Her Best Advice for Young Women (Link) <div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on"><!--[if gte mso 9]><xml> <o:OfficeDocumentSettings> <o:AllowPNG/> <o:TargetScreenSize>1024x768</o:TargetScreenSize> </o:OfficeDocumentSettings></xml><![endif]--><br /><!--[if gte mso 9]><xml> <w:WordDocument> <w:View>Normal</w:View> <w:Zoom>0</w:Zoom> <w:PunctuationKerning/> <w:ValidateAgainstSchemas/> <w:SaveIfXMLInvalid>false</w:SaveIfXMLInvalid> <w:IgnoreMixedContent>false</w:IgnoreMixedContent> <w:AlwaysShowPlaceholderText>false</w:AlwaysShowPlaceholderText> <w:Compatibility> <w:BreakWrappedTables/> <w:SnapToGridInCell/> <w:WrapTextWithPunct/> <w:UseAsianBreakRules/> <w:DontGrowAutofit/> </w:Compatibility> </w:WordDocument></xml><![endif]--><!--[if gte mso 9]><xml> <w:LatentStyles DefLockedState="false" LatentStyleCount="156"> </w:LatentStyles></xml><![endif]--><!--[if gte mso 10]><style> /* Style Definitions */ table.MsoNormalTable {mso-style-name:"Table Normal"; mso-tstyle-rowband-size:0; mso-tstyle-colband-size:0; mso-style-noshow:yes; mso-style-parent:""; mso-padding-alt:0in 5.4pt 0in 5.4pt; mso-para-margin:0in; mso-para-margin-bottom:.0001pt; mso-pagination:widow-orphan; font-size:10.0pt; font-family:"Times New Roman"; mso-ansi-language:#0400; mso-fareast-language:#0400; mso-bidi-language:#0400;} </style><![endif]--> <br /><h1 style="background: white; line-height: 27.0pt; margin-bottom: 7.5pt; margin-left: 0in; margin-right: 0in; margin-top: 0in;"><span style="font-family: Calibri; font-size: 11.0pt;">Huffington Post: <span style="color: #111111;">Amy Schumer Talks Self-Esteem and Her Best Advice for Young Women</span></span><span style="color: #111111; font-family: Georgia;"></span></h1><div class="MsoNormal"><a href="http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2013/05/21/amy-schumer-advice-for-young-women-glamour-these-girls_n_3312880.html#slide=2189815">http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2013/05/21/amy-schumer-advice-for-young-women-glamour-these-girls_n_3312880.html#slide=2189815</a></div></div>CP'S Blogsnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-452662497766494245.post-66027575944228060082013-06-03T12:24:00.003-07:002013-06-03T12:24:44.708-07:00Define Who You Are<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on"><!--[if gte mso 9]><xml> <o:OfficeDocumentSettings> <o:AllowPNG/> <o:TargetScreenSize>1024x768</o:TargetScreenSize> </o:OfficeDocumentSettings></xml><![endif]--><br /><!--[if gte mso 9]><xml> <w:WordDocument> <w:View>Normal</w:View> <w:Zoom>0</w:Zoom> <w:PunctuationKerning/> <w:ValidateAgainstSchemas/> <w:SaveIfXMLInvalid>false</w:SaveIfXMLInvalid> <w:IgnoreMixedContent>false</w:IgnoreMixedContent> <w:AlwaysShowPlaceholderText>false</w:AlwaysShowPlaceholderText> <w:Compatibility> <w:BreakWrappedTables/> <w:SnapToGridInCell/> <w:WrapTextWithPunct/> <w:UseAsianBreakRules/> <w:DontGrowAutofit/> </w:Compatibility> </w:WordDocument></xml><![endif]--><!--[if gte mso 9]><xml> <w:LatentStyles DefLockedState="false" LatentStyleCount="156"> </w:LatentStyles></xml><![endif]--><!--[if gte mso 10]><style> /* Style Definitions */ table.MsoNormalTable {mso-style-name:"Table Normal"; mso-tstyle-rowband-size:0; mso-tstyle-colband-size:0; mso-style-noshow:yes; mso-style-parent:""; mso-padding-alt:0in 5.4pt 0in 5.4pt; mso-para-margin:0in; mso-para-margin-bottom:.0001pt; mso-pagination:widow-orphan; font-size:10.0pt; font-family:"Times New Roman"; mso-ansi-language:#0400; mso-fareast-language:#0400; mso-bidi-language:#0400;} </style><![endif]--> <br /><div class="MsoNormal"><b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;">Define Who You Are</b></div><div class="MsoNormal">You are the only person who should be able to change your mind. You must define the person you are based on who you want to be, not based on the person other people want you to be. Be proud of who you are. Once you are, other people will begin to realize you worth and just how great you truly are. Funny how that works, huh?</div><div class="MsoNormal"><br /></div><div class="MsoNormal">By Marc Leeb (Peaceful Purple Staffer) </div></div>CP'S Blogsnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-452662497766494245.post-84943278900233780842013-06-02T11:58:00.000-07:002013-06-02T11:58:05.219-07:0010 Years of bullying data: What does it tell us? <div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on"><a href="http://www.guardian.co.uk/news/datablog/2013/may/23/10-years-bullying-data" target="_blank">10-years-bullying-data: What does it tell us</a></div>CP'S Blogsnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-452662497766494245.post-58129852372525671662013-05-30T19:21:00.002-07:002013-05-30T19:21:15.858-07:00Learn from Mistakes<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">Learn from Mistakes<br />If you find yourself to be feeling down, identify why and try to correct it. Instead of getting upset because of what someone said, try learning from it and not taking it personally. If you had trouble doing something you are usually very good at, try identifying why you had trouble, learn from it, and become better for next time.<br /><br />By Marc Leeb (Peaceful Purple Staffer) </div>CP'S Blogsnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-452662497766494245.post-13293937884772644622013-05-28T13:56:00.001-07:002013-05-28T13:56:28.808-07:00Be Proud of Who You Are<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">Be Proud of Who You Are<br />If you love to do something, don’t let anyone stop you from doing it. You shouldn’t be ashamed of what you do or who you are. And honestly, who cares what they think about you? If it’s a stranger who says something like that, who cares what a random person you don’t know thinks of you? If it’s a friend who says something like that, they probably aren’t a real friend. <br /><br />By Marc Leeb (Peaceful Purple Staffer)</div>CP'S Blogsnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-452662497766494245.post-31999868808538186732013-05-22T14:13:00.000-07:002013-05-22T14:13:00.591-07:00Self Esteem Tip by Marc Leeb <div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on"><!--[if gte mso 9]><xml> <w:WordDocument> <w:View>Normal</w:View> <w:Zoom>0</w:Zoom> <w:PunctuationKerning/> <w:ValidateAgainstSchemas/> <w:SaveIfXMLInvalid>false</w:SaveIfXMLInvalid> <w:IgnoreMixedContent>false</w:IgnoreMixedContent> <w:AlwaysShowPlaceholderText>false</w:AlwaysShowPlaceholderText> <w:Compatibility> <w:BreakWrappedTables/> <w:SnapToGridInCell/> <w:WrapTextWithPunct/> <w:UseAsianBreakRules/> <w:DontGrowAutofit/> </w:Compatibility> <w:BrowserLevel>MicrosoftInternetExplorer4</w:BrowserLevel> </w:WordDocument></xml><![endif]--><br /><!--[if gte mso 9]><xml> <w:LatentStyles DefLockedState="false" LatentStyleCount="156"> </w:LatentStyles></xml><![endif]--><!--[if gte mso 10]><style> /* Style Definitions */ table.MsoNormalTable {mso-style-name:"Table Normal"; mso-tstyle-rowband-size:0; mso-tstyle-colband-size:0; mso-style-noshow:yes; mso-style-parent:""; mso-padding-alt:0in 5.4pt 0in 5.4pt; mso-para-margin:0in; mso-para-margin-bottom:.0001pt; mso-pagination:widow-orphan; font-size:10.0pt; font-family:"Times New Roman"; mso-ansi-language:#0400; mso-fareast-language:#0400; mso-bidi-language:#0400;} </style><![endif]--> <br /><div class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family: Calibri; font-size: 11.0pt;">Create a long-term goal for yourself that is just out of reach of what you think you can do. For example, try aiming for a certain grade in school, a certain level of productivity, or a certain number of repetitions in an exercise. Setting your sights high keeps you motivated and confident. And who knows, you might exceed your wildest expectations!</span></div></div>CP'S Blogsnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-452662497766494245.post-48089796415970208882013-05-17T10:21:00.000-07:002013-05-17T10:21:14.711-07:00On The Coast: Mother And Son Reveal Toll Of Bullying <div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on"><div class="mainpic"><img alt="" src="http://wamu.org/sites/wamu.org/files/styles/headline_landscape/public/images/attach/mc-bullying3.jpg" /></div><div class="photosource">http://www.flickr.com/photos/helloturkeytoe/416230129/</div><br />By Bryan Russo<br />May 10,2013<br /><br />It's an age-old problem: bullying. Ask most anyone, and he or she will remember being taunted by a bully on the playground or in a school bus. Over the years, our definitions of bullying have evolved, and the issue has gotten more attention as new forms of harassment, such as cyber bullying, have entered the lexicon.<br /> <br />But that doesn't mean bullies are always called out for their behavior. One mom who lives on Maryland's Eastern Shore — we'll call her "Rachel" — says her sons have been repeatedly bullied, and that teachers don't always know how to handle this problem.<br /><br /> "I have been dealing a lot with issues at school, with children saying things or spreading rumors about my children, and it's been hard for me to deal with, and it's actually taken a toll on our family," says Rachel. "My children sometimes don't want to go to school because of it."<br /><br /> Rachel says her older son has been coping with bullying for several years.<br /><br /> "It started when he was in the fifth grade with somebody just telling him that nobody likes him... I believe it started when one child didn't like that my son was a best friend of one of his friends, and he started telling kids that nobody likes him," she says. "Unfortunately that spread through the bus, and my son's peers in the neighborhood started to believe that. And if we fast-forward to now, I found out that that kid that first began bothering my son, has bothered many kids and has never been disciplined for it."<br /><br /> Rachel's son, who asked to use the pseudonym "Bobby," says he watched his brother deal with bullying before he himself confronted similar problems in school.<br /><br /> "He started to withdraw from the family," says Bobby. "He started to become more like, alone... We still hung out, but he didn't like to go outside as much."<br /><br /> Bobby says he was first bullied in the third grade.<br /><br /> "I had this really good friend, and I made him my friend near the beginning of the year," he says. "Then near the middle of the year this kid came along, and he had, like, a whole group of people with him. And whenever I tried to hang out with them, they're like, 'No, we're part of this club and you can't join.'<br /><br /> "So they wouldn't let me play with him, so he just stopped hanging out with me as much, and we stopped going over to each other's houses, and then we stopped talking during school."<br /><br /> Bobby says bullying can "really take a toll on a person."<br /><br /> "It can make people lose friends, and make them feel terrible about themselves," he says. </div>CP'S Blogsnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-452662497766494245.post-78362543383175863032013-05-16T12:35:00.001-07:002013-05-16T12:35:28.480-07:00The Most Important Book Ever Published on School Bullying<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on"><div class="article-abstract"> Bully Nation makes it crystal clear why we must end our anti-bully crusade. </div><div class="article-meta"> <span class="submitted">Published on March 7, 2013 by <a href="http://www.psychologytoday.com/experts/izzy-kalman" title="View Bio">Izzy Kalman</a> in <a href="http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/psychological-solution-bullying">A Psychological Solution to Bullying</a></span></div><div class="article-meta"><span class="submitted"> </span></div><div class="article-meta"><span class="submitted"> </span>I am excited to inform you about a book that is hitting the market this month: <em><a class="ext" href="http://amzn.to/13K5lzh" target="_blank">Bully Nation: Why America's Approach to Childhood Aggression is Bad for Everyone</a><span class="ext"></span>,</em> by Susan Eva Porter. Dr. Porter has also granted me an interview, which will be presented below.When I say <em><a class="ext" href="http://amzn.to/13K5lzh" target="_blank">Bully Nation</a><span class="ext"></span></em> is the most important book ever published on <a class="pt-basics-link" href="http://www.psychologytoday.com/basics/bullying" title="Psychology Today looks at Bullying">bullying</a>, I am not exaggerating. Why is it so important? Not because it brings great new revelations about the evils of bullying and how we need to protect kids from bullies. There are countless books like that. It is important because it is the first published book wholly dedicated to fundamentally challenging the very basis of the anti-bully movement, explaining in the clearest of terms why it is a mistake and why we need to abandon it. For the past fourteen years, since the Columbine shooting, the modern world has been waging a well-intentioned crusade against bullies that has been causing far more harm than good. This movement will eventually collapse from its own weight because it is built on a faulty foundation. <em><a class="ext" href="http://amzn.to/13K5lzh" target="_blank">Bully Nation</a><span class="ext"></span></em> is the biggest step yet in catalyzing the reversal of this misguided war.<br /> <div id="inline-content-bottom-left"> <div class="block" id="block-mlt-001"> <div class="pt-box pt-box-white"><br /></div></div><div class="advertisement advertisement-zone-51"> </div></div>The reasons for the failure of antibullyism should be obvious to any serious student of interpersonal dynamics. It is contrary to almost <a class="ext" href="https://bullies2buddies.com/Izzy-s-Articles/Why-Psychology-is-Failing-to-Solve-the-Problem-of-Bullying.html" target="_blank">everything we learn in psychology and the psychological helping professions</a><span class="ext"></span>, yet it has been eagerly embraced by all the major psychological organizations. It has amazed me that so few professionals have noticed what’s wrong with the anti-bully field despite its obvious failure. A few years ago, the first book to have a chapter criticizing the anti-bully movement was published. That book was <em><a href="http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/the-bully-witch-hunt/200905/voice-sanity-in-the-world-anti-bully-hysteria-developmental-psychol">Reclaiming Childhood: Freedom and Play in an Age of Fear</a>,</em> by British developmental psychologist Helene Guldberg. Now, thanks to Dr. Porter, there is an entire book dedicated to exposing the damage caused by this destructive movement.<br />Porter is a PhD clinical psychologist and educator with two and a half decades experience working in schools. She has perceptively recognized that all <a class="pt-basics-link" href="http://www.psychologytoday.com/basics/child-development" title="Psychology Today looks at Child Development">childhood</a> aggression has been redefined as “bullying,” effectively throwing in the trashcan the entire body of accumulated knowledge on aggression and how to deal with it. Because the bullying paradigm of aggression has been mandated by law, all schools are now required to treat every act of aggression as a drama in which all children are cast in the roles of bully, victim, bystander or ally. With plentiful real-life scenarios, Porter demonstrates how anti-bullying policies are hurting the very students, <a class="pt-basics-link" href="http://www.psychologytoday.com/basics/parenting" title="Psychology Today looks at Parenting">parents</a> and schools they are meant to help. As the subtitle accurately indicates, they are <em>bad for everyone</em>. Not only do these policies intensify hostilities, they actually hurt children’s emotional development, depriving them of the conditions they need to develop coping skills and raising them to be lacking in <a class="pt-basics-link" href="http://www.psychologytoday.com/basics/resilience" title="Psychology Today looks at Resilience">resilience</a>, vulnerable to the most minute insults.<br />The most disturbing revelation of the book is how the anti-bully movement has legitimized free expression of hatred towards anyone labeled bully. A news article reported a story in which a teenage boy, labeled a bully by the writer without explaining how it was determined he was a bully, was stabbed to death by his “victim.” In response, many adults left comments expressing their perverse satisfaction with the murder, declaring that the bully "got what he deserved." Indeed, all it takes to justify murder is to label its victim a bully.<br /><em><a class="ext" href="http://amzn.to/13K5lzh" target="_blank">Bully Nation</a><span class="ext"></span></em> is an overdue call for society to throw out the detrimental Bully Language and instead help children develop the resilience needed to handle the social challenges of life. It is essential reading for all parents, educators and mental health professionals. Before your school staff continues to squander precious time and resources on counterproductive anti-bullying efforts, they must read this book. Our children deserve no less.<br /><strong>Interview with Susan Eva Porter, PhD</strong><br /><strong>IK: </strong>How did it occur to you that there was a problem with the anti-bullying movement?<br /><strong>SEP:</strong> A number of years ago, I started to notice that adults were getting really angry with the kids labeled as bullies. Because I have spent my <a class="pt-basics-link" href="http://www.psychologytoday.com/basics/career" title="Psychology Today looks at Career">career</a> working in schools, when I deal with incidents of childhood aggression I tend to know all of the children involved. As such, I know that the dynamics are never clear-cut and that blame can’t be as easily assigned--there isn’t one good kid and one bad kid. Nevertheless, adults had started using what I call Bully Language, and things had started to seem simple: a victim and a bully and no chance for another interpretation of events. Adults had become furious at the “bullies” and never seemed to pause to examine their own reactions—the bully label gave them license to unleash a great deal of their own <a class="pt-basics-link" href="http://www.psychologytoday.com/basics/anger" title="Psychology Today looks at Anger">rage</a> upon the children, and to remain unrepentant in their stance as accusers.<br />This lead me to think more deeply about how we are seeing kids, especially the ones we call bullies, and whether our language—the labels, in particular—shape our perception. As I investigated anti-bullying <a class="pt-basics-link" href="http://www.psychologytoday.com/basics/education" title="Psychology Today looks at Education">education</a> and literature, I was struck by how concrete and definitive the concepts are, which gave me pause. I would watch my colleagues try to deal with bullying incidents according to the received anti-bully “wisdom” and remain feeling stuck, but this state of being stuck made sense to me given how rigid our conceptual framework about childhood aggression had become. <br />So, from my own experience working in schools as an educator and a clinician I knew something wasn’t working, and I wanted to figure out why.<br /><strong>IK:</strong> Have you encountered any resistance to your ideas? If so, who has been the most resistant?<br /><strong>SEP:</strong> Yes, I have met with resistance, although it seems to soften once people understand that I’m not suggesting children can’t be mean and behave inappropriately. In fact, I’m a firm believer in consequences, so once people understand that I am in favor of <a class="pt-basics-link" href="http://www.psychologytoday.com/basics/self-control" title="Psychology Today looks at Self-Control">discipline</a> they seem more open to hearing my ideas.<br />I sense the greatest resistance comes from those who feel like victims themselves, and also from those who might not understand childhood development.<br /><strong>IK:</strong> Do state mandates affect the way the school(s) you work in deal with bullying?<br /><strong>SEP:</strong> Absolutely, both directly and indirectly. Obviously schools are eager to follow the rules, and this makes sense, but beyond the actual policies, no school wants to be seen as being soft on bullying. As such, many educators are wary of using their own common sense practices to deal with situations of childhood aggression for <a class="pt-basics-link" href="http://www.psychologytoday.com/basics/fear" title="Psychology Today looks at Fear">fear</a> they will be called onto the carpet for ignoring bullying. This is really unfortunate because it limits the degree to which schools can be responsive to children in need. For many, the priority has become to comply with a regulation rather than to educate children.<br /><strong>IK:</strong> What kind of popular response do you expect to your book?<br /><strong>SEP:</strong> I strongly believe that if people actually read it, it will resonate with a large number of them for a number of reasons.<br />First, the conversation about bullying is stalled, and people are looking for hope. They want to understand why they feel so scared and frustrated, and why the anti-bullying policies we have in place don’t work.<br />And second, people are looking for permission to question the received <a class="pt-basics-link" href="http://www.psychologytoday.com/basics/wisdom" title="Psychology Today looks at Wisdom">wisdom</a>. Many people I know are afraid to challenge the anti-bullying movement for fear of being misunderstood or of being seen as “blaming the victim.” This keeps them silenced, and I believe my book will allow them to participate in a broader conversation.<br /><strong>IK:</strong> What do you think about anti-bullying laws?<br /><strong>SEP:</strong> Laws are enacted by legislators, not educators, and as such they are not tools of instruction, which is what children need when it comes to learning about their own aggression and how to manage it productively. So, on this score I think the laws are unnecessary at best and very harmful at worst. In addition, we haven’t paused to ask ourselves what it means for our future as a society to legislate our children’s behavior. In doing so, we’re making outlaws of many children, and this is extremely troubling in so far as it negatively shapes our view of children and their potential.<br />We have enacted anti-bullying laws because we are angry with children and feel frustrated that we can’t control their behavior. We also see laws as a means to prevent children from feeling pain, and for punishing kids who cause pain. This isn’t a very effective way to address any of these issues, and yet we believe that laws will finally put a stop to our suffering. They won’t, they will only make us feel worse—less in control and even angrier.<br />Given that children haven’t changed in the past generation, it is odd that we’re walking down this legalistic path, and it tells us much more about us than it does about our kids. Why do we feel the need to deal with these developmental issues in the courts rather than educationally or therapeutically? Would we teach kids about any other subject by legislating against them when they made mistakes? It just doesn’t make sense if what we want to do is help and guide children.<br /><strong>IK:</strong> Your arguments against the anti-bullying movement make so much sense. Have you wondered why the major psychological organizations have been so eagerly promoting this movement?<br /><strong>SEP:</strong> I am a licensed mental health professional, so I am a member of this group, and I think the reason the anti-bullying movement gets so much support is threefold.<br />First, psychologists and other clinicians are very interested in pain and suffering, and there's no doubt that children experience pain and suffering at each other's hands. This is undisputed, and clinicians are trained to take this very seriously, which is a good thing. Because the anti-bullying movement focuses so much on pain and suffering, it makes sense that clinicians have rallied around.<br />Second, most clinicians do not work in schools, so they naturally hear just one side of the story when they deal with bullying situations. It’s akin to hearing just one side of the story of a troubled <a class="pt-basics-link" href="http://www.psychologytoday.com/basics/marriage" title="Psychology Today looks at Marriage">marriage</a>. It’s not until you have both spouses in the room that you get the whole picture. Those of us who work with kids in schools necessarily have a broader perspective and know that the simplicity with which the anti-bully movement assigns blame just doesn’t bear out in the real world of childhood.<br />Finally, I think clinicians feel as helpless as the rest of us, and so they’ve embraced the movement without thinking about it too critically. Most clinicians are just that—they are practitioners—and they aren’t necessarily interested in the larger issues that are at play.<br />I hope clinicians can entertain my ideas with an open mind because I truly believe that when they think differently about childhood aggression they will be able to do their jobs more effectively. A sea change in thinking will enable clinicians to empower their young clients and give parents better tools to support their children.<br /><strong>IK:</strong> Do you think the anti-bullying movement is a fad, or is it here to stay?<br /><strong>SEP:</strong> I am working hard to make it a fad, as I know you are. If it’s here to stay, then I think we’re in real trouble.<br /><strong>IK:</strong> How did you come up with the title, Bully Nation?<br /><strong>SEP:</strong> For starters, I think bullying is affecting the whole nation—we’re all in this muck together. And I also believe we’re doing a great disservice to children at the moment. We are not behaving well, and although we have our children’s best interests at heart, we’re not using our heads to deal with their challenges. Our feelings have swept us away and at the moment we are quite off base as a society. Bully Nation seemed to capture for me the momentum that’s out there, and the rage.<br /><strong>IK:</strong> Is there anything else you would like to let the readers know?<br /><strong>SEP:</strong> I think your work is groundbreaking. It has greatly informed my own <a class="pt-basics-link" href="http://www.psychologytoday.com/basics/empathy" title="Psychology Today looks at Empathy ">understanding</a> of this whole issue. I believe all of us can work together to empower children but we have to be smarter about it, and I think you’re being smart.<br />I hope you continue to get the message out—it’s an important one, and I want to recognize your efforts to help kids, parents, and educators to deal with our current cultural frenzy in a sensible and effective manner.<br /><strong>IK:</strong> Thanks, Dr. Porter, for the kind words!<br /> </div></div>CP'S Blogsnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-452662497766494245.post-49873236725305655202013-05-15T05:02:00.003-07:002013-05-15T05:02:53.922-07:00Why it is hard to monitor bullying at schools — report<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">By Valerie Strauss<br /><br /><div class="facebook-hover-horizontal"> <div class="fb-like fb_edge_widget_with_comment fb_iframe_widget" data-layout="button_count" data-send="false" data-show-faces="false" data-width="73"><span style="height: 60px; width: 90px;"></span></div></div><div class="twitter-hover-horizontal"> <div class="static-twitter"> </div></div><a href="http://www.washingtonpost.com/blogs/answer-sheet/files/2013/05/Prevention-of-Bullying-Cover.jpg"><img alt="Prevention of Bullying Cover" class="alignleft size-medium wp-image-12406" height="300" src="http://www.washingtonpost.com/blogs/answer-sheet/files/2013/05/Prevention-of-Bullying-Cover-196x300.jpg" width="196" /></a>A <a href="http://www.aera.net/Portals/38/docs/News%20Release/Prevention%20of%20Bullying%20in%20Schools,%20Colleges%20and%20Universities.pdf">new report</a> that reviewed years of research says that it is hard to accurately monitor levels of bullying in schools because there is still no consensus on exactly what it is and that educators and scholars “should not limit themselves to the traditional definition” as they seek ways to combat it.<br /> The report, called “<a href="http://www.aera.net/Portals/38/docs/News%20Release/Prevention%20of%20Bullying%20in%20Schools,%20Colleges%20and%20Universities.pdf">Prevention of Bullying in Schools, Colleges and Universities</a>” and just released by the American Educational Research Association at its 2013 meeting in San Francisco, is the work of a blue-ribbon task force that was charged with finding short- and long-term recommendations for institutions to address bullying of young people.<br /> The report is divided into briefs which look at research on specific areas, including:<br /> *Looking Beyond the Traditional Definition of Bullying<br />*Bullying as a Pervasive Problem<br />*Bullying and Peer Victimization Among Vulnerable Populations<br />*Gender-Related Bullying and Harassment: A Growing Trend<br />*Legal Rights Related to Bullying and Discriminatory Harassment<br />*Improving School Climate: A Critical Tool in Combating Bullying<br /> The report starts off with the definition issue, saying:<br /><br /><br /><blockquote>Bullying is a highly varied form of aggression where there is systematic use and abuse of power. Bullying can include physical aggression such as hitting and shoving, and verbal aggression, such as name-calling (Espelage, 2012; Vaillancourtet al., 2008). It can also include social or relational forms of bullying in which a victim is excluded by peers or subjected to humiliation. Bullying can occur face-to-face or through digital media such as text messages, social media, and websites. There are mild, moderate, and severe levels of bullying.</blockquote><br /> Traditional definitions have seen bullying defined as:<br /> <blockquote>*Unwanted, intentional, aggressive behavior that involves a real or perceived power imbalance that is often repeated over time (Olweus, 1993).<br /> <br /> *Actions of verbal and physical aggression that range in severity from making threats and spreading rumors to isolating or excluding others, to physical attacks causing injury. The formal definition of bullying includes all behaviors that fit the stated criteria. Therefore, even severe acts involving weapon use, gang activity, or crimes could fit the formal definition of bullying if they involve a power imbalance. Some researchers include these behaviors and some do not.</blockquote>But researchers have largely not used the traditional definitions and the broad application of their work is open to question.<br /> <blockquote>*Some researchers provide students with the traditional definition and then assess prevalence in small (not representative) samples. This practice ignores research showing that the use of a definition influences prevalence rates, and it does not consider findings that youth identify bullying with these components (Vaillancourt et al., 2008).<br /> <br /> *National epidemiological studies provide a definition and simply ask students if they have been bullied or if they have bullied another student within a specific time frame provided. For example, the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (2012) assessed two items of lifetime victimization (bullied on school property and bullied electronically; see http://www.cdc.gov/). Similarly, Nansel, Overpeck, Pilla, Ruan, Simons-Morton, and Scheidt (2001) assessed victimization or perpetration at school or away from school since last term/semester with a total of four items.<br /> <br /> *Other researchers simply provide youth with a list of behavioral descriptors of aggressive behaviors (e.g., name-calling, hitting, excluding), assess frequency within a specific time frame, and sum these experiences. Higher scores on these victimization and perpetration scales are considered a marker of severity, and the scales are used to study predictors of the phenomena, but no direct assessment of intentionality or power differential is assessed (Espelage, Holt, & Henkel, 2003; Espelage, Basile, & Hamburger, 2012; Espelage, Green, & Polanin, 2012).<br /><div class="column-five left padding-right margin-top-5 margin-right-15" id="article-side-rail"><div class="left margin-right margin-bottom slug" id="slug_inline_bb" style="display: block;"> <div id="wpni_adi_inline_bb"> </div></div></div><br /> *Researchers typically assume intentionality, equate frequency reflecting the actions of many students with repetition from the same bully, and rarely assess the power imbalance directly (for an exception, see Rodkin, Espelage, & Hanish, in press). Some have argued that repetition is an index of severity but does not define bullying (Rodkin et al., in press).</blockquote>The brief on bullying definitions concludes by saying:<br /> <blockquote>Some bullying behaviors may overlap with aggression that meets the legal definition of harassment, assault, or school crime, but not all incidents of harassment or assault are bullying. Without the components of intentionality, repetition, and power combined in the behavior of the same person, bullying victimization is the same as school victimization.</blockquote><br /> <blockquote>Bullying is part of the larger phenomenon of violence in schools and communities. Educators and scholars should not limit themselves to the traditional definition. Since it is not fully clear to what extent victimization and bullying overlap, the public and researchers should assess both victimization and bullying behaviors. Further, the examination of victimization should involve interactions among all community members, including youth, teachers, school staff, parents,and so forth. As a result of differences in definition, there is no consensus on the incidence of bullying or on trends over time. There is a need for researchers to agree upon how best to define and measure bullying and to reach consensus on comparable use. Research that distinguishes more carefully among types of bullying and levels of severity would make it possible to monitor levels of bullying and evaluate intervention efforts in a more standardized manner.</blockquote><br /> One section of the report says that bullying in K-12 is different than in college because<br /> <blockquote>Higher education institutions have a diverse set of employee contracts, for part-time and full-time faculty, professional staff, nonprofessional staff, administrators, and student employees (graduate assistants, for example). The presence of varying types of employees alongside tuition-paying students results in unique power dynamics, which, in turn, lead to complexity regarding who is defined as victim or perpetrator; for example, students may bully or harass faculty despite faculty’s relative power in the institutional hierarchy. Colleges and universities also have unique structural aspects, such as tenure, that play a role in how bullying occurs.</blockquote>Gender-based bullying is noted as a growing trend. It is defined as<br /> <blockquote>… any unwanted behavior that enforces traditional, heterosexual gender norms. Its related to, and can overlap with, bullying. Forms of gendered harassment include sexual harassment; homophobic, biphobic, or transphobic harassment; and harassment for gender-nonconformity…</blockquote><br /> The report also says that one key tool to curbing bullying in schools is improving the school climate, an issue that adults and students in a school building often see differently. School climate surveys show that adults “often report that school safety is a mild or moderate problem, while students often report that it is a severe problem.”<br /> Research-based ways to improve school climate include:<br /> *Develop a shared vision among educational leaders and the entire school community about what kind of school they want their school to be.<br /> *Assess the school’s strengths and needs in a comprehensive, reliable, and valid manner.<br /> *Teach prosocial skills in regular classes, advisory classes, and other small-group experiences with opportunities for practice.<br /> *Engage in prevention efforts that range from on-the-spot teaching with students who engage in teasing or bullying behavior to formal school-wide programs.<br /> *Support partnerships among parents, educators, and mental health professionals who seek to interrupt the bully-victim-bystander cycle and encourage bystanders to be upstanders who do not allow bullying to continue.<br /><br /><div class="echo_container count submitbox stream comment-vars nomobile comments processed" id="echo_container_1368618897044_14"><div class="echo_stream_container margin-bottom-20" id="echo_stream_container_1368618897044_14"><div class="echo-stream echo-ui" id="echo_comment_stream_1368618897044_14"><div class="echo-stream-container echo-primaryFont echo-primaryBackgroundColor"><div class="echo-stream-body"><div class="echo-item-content"><div class="echo-item-container echo-item-container-root echo-item-depth-0 echo-item-user-marker-top_local"><div class="echo-item-wrapper echo-item-wrapper-root"><div class="echo-item-subwrapper echo-item-user-marker-top_local"><div class="echo-item-header-wrapper"><div class="echo-item-content"><div class="echo-item-replyForm echo-ui echo-item-container echo-item-container-child echo-trinaryBackgroundColor echo-item-depth-1"><div class="echo-submit-container"><div class="echo-submit-content echo-submit-border"><input class="echo-submit-text echo-submit-text-input echo-primaryFont echo-primaryColor echo-secondaryColor" /></div></div></div></div></div></div></div></div></div></div></div></div></div></div><div class="widget-area" id="secondary" role="complementary"><div class="module right-rail background" id="right-rail"><div style="width: 336px;"><div class="module component most-post curved"><div class="heading heading2"><span></span><span></span> </div></div><div id="answer-sheet-right-rail-modules"><div class="module featured-stories component curved img-border"><div class="clear align-right bkgd-grey-rounded-corner pt-padded"> <strong><a class="icon right-arrow" href="http://apps.washingtonpost.com/investigative/homicides/?tid=rr_mod">View the map</a></strong> </div></div></div></div></div></div></div>CP'S Blogsnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-452662497766494245.post-62272577078389130672013-05-15T04:53:00.003-07:002013-05-15T04:53:57.006-07:00"Band Against Bullying" Press Conference<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on"><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><object width="320" height="266" class="BLOGGER-youtube-video" classid="clsid:D27CDB6E-AE6D-11cf-96B8-444553540000" codebase="http://download.macromedia.com/pub/shockwave/cabs/flash/swflash.cab#version=6,0,40,0" data-thumbnail-src="http://img.youtube.com/vi/TZhJYykbICI/0.jpg"><param name="movie" value="http://youtube.googleapis.com/v/TZhJYykbICI&source=uds" /><param name="bgcolor" value="#FFFFFF" /><param name="allowFullScreen" value="true" /><embed width="320" height="266" src="http://youtube.googleapis.com/v/TZhJYykbICI&source=uds" type="application/x-shockwave-flash" allowfullscreen="true"></embed></object></div><br /></div>CP'S Blogsnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-452662497766494245.post-2977551724204083482013-05-14T15:09:00.003-07:002013-05-14T15:09:32.148-07:00'Star Wars Kid' Blasts Bullies, Jedi Knights Defend Him<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">By Chris Taylor <br />It was the lightsaber practice heard 'round the world, and one of the earliest viral videos online. It spawned a dozen parodies. But for one teenager, it meant years of hell. Now he's finally speaking out.<br /> Ghyslain Raza, a ninth grader in Quebec, tried out some moves with a golf ball retriever in his high school's TV studio. He recorded the result. It was gawky and uncoordinated; it was, after all, just something he was trying out for a <a href="http://mashable.com/category/star-wars/">Star Wars</a> skit at a school gala. <br /> "I was goofing around," Raza told Canada's <em>Macleans</em> magazine in his first and only interview, 10 years later. "Most 14-year-old boys would do something similar in that situation, maybe more gracefully."<br /> Unbeknownst to him, some classmates found the tape and posted it online via the file-sharing service Kazaa. It's hard to estimate how many people saw the result, universally known as "Star Wars kid." <a href="https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HPPj6viIBmU" target="_blank">The YouTube video</a> shows more than 27 million views, but this was May 2003: The video predated <a href="http://mashable.com/category/youtube/">YouTube</a>'s founding by nearly two years. <br /> After the <em>New York Times</em> picked up the story of the video's success, Raza's world collapsed. "That was the turning point," he said. "Reporters were knocking at my door, calling so often that we had to unplug the phone. I figured if I started to give interviews, I would only make things worse."<br /> <h2>Parodies and Cyberbullies</h2><h2> </h2>The parodies kept coming. They hit TV on <em>Family Guy</em> and <em>Arrested Development</em>. In 2006, there was "<a href="https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3GJOVPjhXMY" target="_blank">drunken Jedi</a>," which added special effects to give Raza a real lightsaber; it got 12 million views. He was later shown <a href="https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2URImmLYAsQ" target="_blank">fighting Yoda</a> (4 million views) and <a href="https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YvEibGgp-GA" target="_blank">Agent Smith</a> from <em>The Matrix</em> (2 million views).<br /> At school, Raza suffered endless mockery. He lost his friends. Students would exaggerate his moves from the video and climb on to tabletops to insult him. "It soon became impossible for me to attend class," he told <em>Macleans</em>. But worse, far worse, were the comments he read about himself online. One commenter called him "a pox on humanity." Others suggested he commit suicide. <br /> "On the Internet, there are no limits," Raza says. "It was poison." Though he never considered suicide, "I couldn't help but feel worthless ... it was a very dark period for me."<br /> Raza did his exams in a high school affiliated with a local hospital, sparking rumors that he'd been sent to the psychiatric ward. His family hired a lawyer that sued the kids who uploaded the video, seeking damages of $160,000; the settlement, however, didn't even cover the Raza family's costs. Meanwhile, Ghyslain got a private tutor. Finally, he was able to return to a regular high school for senior year.<br /> Today, aged 25, Raza has made peace with his past. He's a law graduate from McGill University and the <a data-crackerjax="#post-slider" href="http://mashable.com/2010/06/03/star-wars-kid/">president of a local conservation society</a>. Why did he decide to come forward now? Because of recent high-profile <a href="http://mashable.com/category/cyberbullying/">cyberbullying</a> cases where the victims <em>were</em> <a data-crackerjax="#post-slider" href="http://mashable.com/2013/04/11/father-suicide-victim/">driven to suicide</a>. <br /> His message for kids who are in the same position he was in: "You'll survive. You're not alone. You are surrounded by people who love you. You have to overcome your shame and get help."<br /> <h2>'He Showed Us the Way'</h2><h2> </h2>Meanwhile, the activity Raza was goofing around with has become a business in its own right. Every week in San Francisco and Silicon Valley, a group called the Golden Gate Knights meets to practice lightsaber choreography. The intense, three-hour sessions are serious stuff, something like a mixture of fencing and yoga.<br /> As far as these Jedi knights are concerned, Raza never had anything to be ashamed of. "Despite his hardships, Ghyslain Raza helped blaze a trail for other Star Wars fans," says Alain Bloch, who leads the San Francisco class. "We weren't laughing at him as much as we were laughing at ourselves. We have all picked up a broomstick and waved it around like a lightsaber. <br /> "That's why his video become so popular: It was funny and awkward but ultimately we connected to him. That made us feel more comfortable with our own awkwardness and dreams of being a Jedi."<br /><br />Link to article <a href="http://mashable.com/2013/05/10/star-wars-kid-interview-cyberbullying/">http://mashable.com/2013/05/10/star-wars-kid-interview-cyberbullying/</a></div>CP'S Blogsnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-452662497766494245.post-10856376105978806402013-05-14T14:25:00.001-07:002013-05-14T14:25:12.087-07:00Refuse to be a Victim<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on"><!--[if gte mso 9]><xml> <w:WordDocument> <w:View>Normal</w:View> <w:Zoom>0</w:Zoom> <w:PunctuationKerning/> <w:ValidateAgainstSchemas/> <w:SaveIfXMLInvalid>false</w:SaveIfXMLInvalid> <w:IgnoreMixedContent>false</w:IgnoreMixedContent> <w:AlwaysShowPlaceholderText>false</w:AlwaysShowPlaceholderText> <w:Compatibility> <w:BreakWrappedTables/> <w:SnapToGridInCell/> <w:WrapTextWithPunct/> <w:UseAsianBreakRules/> <w:DontGrowAutofit/> </w:Compatibility> <w:BrowserLevel>MicrosoftInternetExplorer4</w:BrowserLevel> </w:WordDocument></xml><![endif]--><br /><!--[if gte mso 9]><xml> <w:LatentStyles DefLockedState="false" LatentStyleCount="156"> </w:LatentStyles></xml><![endif]--><!--[if gte mso 10]><style> /* Style Definitions */ table.MsoNormalTable {mso-style-name:"Table Normal"; mso-tstyle-rowband-size:0; mso-tstyle-colband-size:0; mso-style-noshow:yes; mso-style-parent:""; mso-padding-alt:0in 5.4pt 0in 5.4pt; mso-para-margin:0in; mso-para-margin-bottom:.0001pt; mso-pagination:widow-orphan; font-size:10.0pt; font-family:"Times New Roman"; mso-ansi-language:#0400; mso-fareast-language:#0400; mso-bidi-language:#0400;} </style><![endif]--> <br /><div class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family: Calibri; font-size: 11.0pt;">Refuse to be a Victim</span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><br /></div><div class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family: Calibri; font-size: 11.0pt;">Oftentimes, the most effective way of dealing with someone who is bullying you is to show that you refuse to be a victim. Don't just take it, make it clear that you refuse to comply. Bullies like to target people who they think are weak because these people are easy to bully. But you aren't weak! Stand up against the bully! Nothing discourages a bully like a target who doesn't respond or even fights back.</span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><br /></div><div class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family: Calibri; font-size: 11.0pt;">By Marc Leeb </span></div></div>CP'S Blogsnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-452662497766494245.post-69523462909562583212013-05-13T10:22:00.000-07:002013-05-13T10:22:17.096-07:00The Tricky Politics of Tween Bullying<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on"><br />By Hans Villarica <br /><br />When talk of teen bullying comes up, younger adolescents are often left out. TV shows like <em>Glee</em> and advocacy projects like <em>It Gets Better</em> focus on the plight of bullied kids in high school — not middle school. But that misses the reality that tweens can be just as mean as teens.<span id="more-18059"></span><br /> Consider the numbers: An estimated half of sixth-graders are <a href="http://newsroom.ucla.edu/portal/ucla/Bullying-Among-Sixth-Graders-a-6006.aspx" target="_blank">bullied</a> in a week, and roughly four in five students <a href="http://jea.sagepub.com/content/25/4/453.abstract" target="_blank">report</a> being verbally harassed in middle school. Further, in a survey by UCLA researchers, more than 70% of teens acknowledged being <a href="http://newsroom.ucla.edu/portal/ucla/bullying-of-teenagers-online-is-64265.aspx" target="_blank">bullied</a> online at least once a year. Indeed, the rate of bullying peaks when kids are 10 to 13 years old — and that’s when its effects are arguably at their worst as well. <br /> “Relational aggression early on can be especially damaging since it tends to stick,” says <a href="http://www.cincinnatichildrens.org/svc/alpha/d/disabilities/fs/psych/ryan-adams.htm" target="_blank">Ryan E. Adams</a>, a peer victimization expert. “Early adolescence is when you get your reputation.”<br /> Adams’ work focuses on relational aggression, bullying that takes the form of rumor-spreading and name-calling, rather than physical blows. It involves purposeful exclusion of victimized kids and gossiping about them. Imagine tween versions of <em>Heathers</em>, <em>Clueless</em> or <em>Mean Girls</em> (no generation is spared). It’s not physical aggression, but it arguably causes more lasting harm.<br /> For a <a href="http://jea.sagepub.com/content/30/1/102.abstract" rel="nofollow">recent study</a> published in the <a href="http://jea.sagepub.com/" rel="nofollow"><em>Journal of Early Adolescence</em></a>, Adams collaborated with Concordia University psychologist <a href="http://psychology.concordia.ca/facultyandstaff/faculty/bukowski.php" target="_blank">William Bukowski</a> and Ph.D. student Nancy Bartlett, to study the mechanics of tween social politics and bullying. The researchers found that some tweens use bullying to gain popularity.<br /> “Generally, kids don’t like kids who are aggressive,” says Adams, the study’s lead author. “But relational aggression seems to be much more complex and has these differential outcomes depending on who’s using it, how it’s being used and who’s being victimized.”<br /> The researchers analyzed the peer ratings of 367 fifth- and sixth-graders for the study. In particular, they looked at how the usually negative relationship between relational aggression and peer liking held up among kids who were socially dominant (the popular kids) and those who were not (those who had ever been victimized by peers). In other words, the researchers wanted to know, when popular kids bully other kids, are the bullies more or less liked by their peers? How about when the victims of bullying express aggression themselves — are they more or less liked?<br /> It turns out, the social standing of the bully and the victim makes a difference. The researchers found that, when a popular student bullies other kids, he or she doesn’t get stigmatized; the student is exempted from what Adams calls “the blowback typically associated with aggression.”<br /> The same cannot be said for the victims of bullies, however. Victims who turn aggressive and bully other kids turn out to be the least liked kids in middle school. Worse, the findings suggest that no one cares when these kids are bullied.<br /> How a kid attacks or reacts matters greatly too. An aggressive victim who’s not proficient in schoolyard politics may react to being bullied in over-the-top ways that cut further at his social standing. And when he bullies other kids himself, it’s usually not in the winsome ways of the popular kid, who knows how to get away with bad behavior. The most popular tween shrewdly uses laughter, for instance, so he doesn’t come across as too mean when gossiping. <br /> “If parents and teachers assume that peers always have negative perceptions of those who behave aggressively, [then] the present study shows that this assumption is not necessarily accurate,” says <a href="http://www.sacredheart.edu/pages/1497_kathryn_m_lafontana_ph_d_.cfm" rel="nofollow">Kathryn LaFontana</a>, an expert in peer relationships.<br /> So what can parents and teachers do? To begin with, they should recognize what victimization is. “A lot of times with principals, teachers and even parents, they think, ‘Oh, these are just kids being kids,’” Adams says. “But much of the aggression is much more subtle. And by ignoring them, you’re reinforcing them.”<br /> Adams says, when he used to train teachers, he would often suggest that they think of the most difficult kid they have to deal with in class. Most likely, he says, other kids don’t like that kid as well and he ends up getting the worst of it. <br /> “They’re not likable so it might be easier for teachers to look the other way,” he says. “But reaching out to them and understanding that there’s a lot more behind that negative behavior you don’t like might help.”<br /> And what about the popular bullies — how should they be punished? This is where things get murkier for psychologist <a href="http://www.psych.ku.edu/psych_people/faculty_Patricia_Hawley.shtml" target="_blank">Patricia Hawley</a>.<br /> “What if aggression fosters personal growth such as self-esteem and wins high regard from the social group at the same time? The fact of the matter is that effective adults use relational aggression all the time,” Hawley says. “We reward them with respect and higher salaries.”<br /> For Adams, things aren’t so gray. He notes that, fortunately, relational aggression becomes less and less accepted after the tween years. Still, he worries that being aggressive may be confounded with being assertive, and this may send a message that there are benefits to bullying. <br /> “There may be success at work, but there are also other issues like ‘Do you feel good?’ ‘Are you anxious?’ and ‘Do you have friends?’” he says, adding, “Is relational aggression something you have to do to get ahead? I don’t think so.”<br /> So what message would Adams tell victimized kids? Not surprisingly, it’s a familiar one: <a href="http://www.itgetsbetter.org/" rel="nofollow">It gets better</a>.<br /> “These campaigns featuring celebrities give kids somebody that they trust and that they identify with, whether it’s [because they have] the same sexual orientation or they’re doing something they aspire to,” he says, noting that tweens tend to be very egocentric at this point in their lives. “It helps to have somebody say, ‘I made it.’”<br /><div style="background-color: white; border: medium none; color: black; overflow: hidden; text-align: left; text-decoration: none;"><br />Read more: <a href="http://healthland.time.com/2010/12/03/adolescents-anonymous-are-tweens-the-new-mean-girls/#ixzz2TC6Xhn5g" style="color: #003399;">http://healthland.time.com/2010/12/03/adolescents-anonymous-are-tweens-the-new-mean-girls/#ixzz2TC6Xhn5g</a></div></div>CP'S Blogsnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-452662497766494245.post-54332088270807332062013-05-13T10:17:00.000-07:002013-05-13T10:17:37.126-07:00Why Kids Bully: Because They're Popular<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on"><br />By Belinda Luscombe<br /><br />Mean kids, mothers tell their wounded young, behave that way because they have unhappy home lives, or feel inadequate, or don’t have enough friends or because they somehow lack empathy. But a new study suggests some mean kids actually behave that way simply because they can.<span id="more-24925"></span><br /> Contrary to accepted ruffian-scholarship, the more popular a middle- or high-school kid becomes, the more central to the social network of the school, the more aggressive the behavior he or she engages in. At least, that was the case in North Carolina, where students from 19 middle and high schools were studied for 4.5 years by researchers at the University of California-Davis.<br /> Authors Robert Faris and Diane Felmlee interviewed public-school kids seven times over the course of their study, starting when the students were in grades 6, 7 and 8. They asked the students to name their friends and used the data to create friendship maps. They then asked the kids who was unkind to them and whom they picked on, and mapped out the pathways of aggression. (<strong>More on Time.com: </strong><a href="http://healthland.time.com/2010/12/03/adolescents-anonymous-are-tweens-the-new-mean-girls/" rel="bookmark" target="_blank">The Tricky Politics of Tween Bullying</a>)<br /> What they found was that only one-third of the students engaged in any bullying at all — physical force, taunts or gossip-spreading — but those who were moving up the school popularity chain bullied more as they went higher. Only when kids reached the very top 2% of the school’s social hierarchy or fell into the bottom 2% did their behavior change; these kids were the least aggressive.<br /> “Seemingly normal well-adjusted kids can be aggressive,” says Faris, whose results are published in the new issue of the <a href="http://www.asanet.org/journals/asr/"><em>American Sociological Review</em></a>. “We found that status increases aggression.”<br /> While the authors are not ruling out psychological or background influences as underlying causes of the bullying, they believe that popularity is at least as important. “It’s one of the few times I can recall in social sciences where race and family background seem to make very little difference,” says Faris. “Those demographic and socioeconomic factors don’t seem to matter as much as where the kids are in the school hierarchy.” (<strong>More on Time.com: </strong><a href="http://healthland.time.com/2010/10/27/a-glimmer-of-hope-in-a-bad-news-survey-about-bullying/" rel="bookmark" target="_blank">A Glimmer of Hope in a Bad-News Survey About Bullying</a>)<br /> Faris also found that the more kids cared about popularity, the more aggressive they were. Ironically, that’s pointless; hostile behavior did not cause rises in status. “The evidence suggests that overall aggression does not increase status,” he says. Then again, it’s not whether it works that’s important. It’s whether the kids believe it works.<br /> Another stereotype the study jabbed at was that males and females bully differently. Boys spread gossip only marginally less often than girls did. And girls were negligibly less physically violent to each other than boys were. Gender-on-gender bullying was more prevalent among girls than boys, but boys were more likely to be hostile toward girls than the other way around.<br /> Gender wasn’t entirely a neutral factor, however. If a girl knew a lot of boys, or a boy knew a lot of girls at a school where there wasn’t much intermingling of the sexes, those kids’ status would go up, presumably because they provided a bridge to contact with potential dates. And, yep, the “gender-bridge” kids, as the study called them, seemed to be more aggressive than others. <br /> If bullying is actually more of a result of hierarchy than of psychology, Faris believes there might be a more effective solution than trying to change the behavior of the bullies. (Break out the <a href="http://www.quotationspage.com/quote/2298.html">Edmund Burke</a>.) “The majority of kids who witness this, either give it tacit approval or outright encouragement,” says Faris. “Those are the ones who give these kids their status. We need to change their minds.”<br /><div style="background-color: white; border: medium none; color: black; overflow: hidden; text-align: left; text-decoration: none;"><br />Read more: <a href="http://healthland.time.com/2011/02/08/do-popular-kids-bully-more/#ixzz2TC4ubpnh" style="color: #003399;">http://healthland.time.com/2011/02/08/do-popular-kids-bully-more/#ixzz2TC4ubpnh</a></div></div>CP'S Blogsnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-452662497766494245.post-26314655624416282122013-05-11T08:54:00.001-07:002013-05-11T08:54:12.844-07:00Sports can play a pivotal role in helping combat bullying<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">This article was written a few years ago in Sports Illustrated... by Michael Rosenberg<br /><br />In this week's SI, I wrote an essay <a href="http://sportsillustrated.cnn.com/vault/article/magazine/MAG1191014/index.htm?eref=sisf">about DeSean Jackson of the Eagles</a>. In it, I neglected to mention the enormous human tragedy of the Eagles losing three football games and instead focused on something else: Jackson's crusade against bullying.<br /> Inspired by a Pennsylvania kid named Nadin Khoury, who stood up against bullies, Jackson spent the offseason on his anti-bullying campaign. Jackson believes athletes can make a huge difference when it comes to stopping bullying.<br /> In many ways, it is the ideal cause for a pro athlete -- exactly the right way to use our country's sports-idol worship for the greater good. There are a million great causes, of course. Anybody who raises money to fight a disease or help underprivileged kids is doing a wonderful thing. But athletes are uniquely suited to fight bullying. From elementary school to pick-up games at the Y, they command respect from their peers. They epitomize cool. And if they say bullying is not cool, that resonates.<br /> But it occurs to me that sports can make a huge impact on stopping bullying in another way, too. We just have to view sports differently.<br /> Playing sports is supposed to build self-esteem, keep us mentally and physically healthy and teach us how to work with others. But Leila Steinberg, who works with Jackson on his anti-bullying campaign, said: "The dynamic of cooperation has to come in addition to competition. We've kind of lost that."<br /> Why?<br /> "The parents half the time are the worst," Steinberg said. "They don't know how to watch their (kids') games. If we're honest, we live through our kids. I started observing all the parents who don't live through their kids in a healthy way. I started seeing this dynamic ... You see these parents fighting in the stands."<br /> Many parents are so worried about teaching their kids how to win that they never teach them how to lose. I'm not just talking about the infamous parents who measure their kids' muscles at birth, have them lifting weights as an infant and don't let them walk near a Dairy Queen, let alone stop in and have a cone. In fact, I explicitly am <i>not</i> talking about those parents. I think it's too easy to point to them and say, <i>"They're </i>the ones with lousy priorities. They don't get it. I do."<br /> I'm talking about the rest of us. We tell eight-year-olds to focus on one sport year-round. It is commonplace for kids switch high schools to get more playing time. Kids learn that winning is the most important thing, even if nobody says it directly.<br /> <a href="http://www.people.com/people/gallery/0,,20532775,00.html" target="new">PEOPLE.COM: MOST INSPIRING ANTI-BULLYING STORIES</a><br /> <a href="http://www.time.com/time/specials/packages/article/0,28804,2095385_2095422,00.html" target="new">TIME.COM: SHOULD WE RE-THINK OUR ANTI-BULLYING STRATEGY</a><br /> <a href="http://www.time.com/time/specials/packages/article/0,28804,2095385_2095422_2095872,00.html" target="new">TIME.COM: SEARCHING FOR MY HIGH SCHOOL BULLY 24 YEARS LATER</a><br /> <a href="http://www.time.com/time/specials/packages/article/0,28804,2095385_2095462_2095500,00.html" target="new">TIME.COM: WHAT 10 FAMOUS FILMS TEACH US ABOUT BULLYING</a><br /> And as a result, instead of feeling good about accomplishing whatever they can accomplish, they think sports are just about beating somebody. They don't get the social benefits of playing sports: improved self-esteem and a comfort and understanding of who they are. If more people had that, we would treat people better. We wouldn't bully as much.<br /> What if we told our kids to focus on helping their teammates, not beating their opponents? The on-field objectives would be the same: To excel athletically and try to win. But the reasons for playing would change. Sports would be a much more positive experience.<br /> Steinberg's nonprofit, Alternative Intervention Models, encourages kids through the arts and athletics. Think about how differently we view those endeavors. We don't send kids on traveling art teams. If a 10-year-old draws something surprisingly beautiful, we don't angle to turn him into a millionaire by 25.<br /> We seem to understand that arts are an outlet for creative expression and self-discovery. Sports should be more like that. What if you saw your kid out on the baseball field and viewed him not as a hitter, but as a painter? What if he wasn't trying to be a hero to others, but to himself?<br /> Sports will never be exactly like the arts. Most of our sports are team games, so more people have a vested interest in the result. We can let people down in sports, and we don't cheer at art exhibitions.<br /> "With arts, it is usually self-driven," Steinberg said. "Sports, it's much more acceptable, it's much more social. A lot of times, those that are drawn to the arts for that outlet. It's not done in the community in the same way. The participation is not the same. That's why sports is so much more important in terms of tools you can instill. You have everybody in the family observing."<br /> Still, if sports were more like the arts -- marked more by encouragement than discipline, with a different measurement of success -- we would get so much more out of them. "The potential for reframing how we work with our kids is huge," Steinberg said.<br /> We can start by redefining what it means to win.<br /><div style="background-color: white; border: medium none; color: black; overflow: hidden; text-align: left; text-decoration: none;"><br />Read More: <a href="http://sportsillustrated.cnn.com/2011/writers/michael_rosenberg/10/06/bullying/index.html#ixzz2T0373zLK" style="color: #003399;">http://sportsillustrated.cnn.com/2011/writers/michael_rosenberg/10/06/bullying/index.html#ixzz2T0373zLK</a></div></div>CP'S Blogsnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-452662497766494245.post-73057720668004785192013-05-09T17:38:00.002-07:002013-05-09T17:38:29.589-07:00Don't compare yourself to someone else...<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on"><!--[if gte mso 9]><xml> <w:WordDocument> <w:View>Normal</w:View> <w:Zoom>0</w:Zoom> <w:PunctuationKerning/> <w:ValidateAgainstSchemas/> <w:SaveIfXMLInvalid>false</w:SaveIfXMLInvalid> <w:IgnoreMixedContent>false</w:IgnoreMixedContent> <w:AlwaysShowPlaceholderText>false</w:AlwaysShowPlaceholderText> <w:Compatibility> <w:BreakWrappedTables/> <w:SnapToGridInCell/> <w:WrapTextWithPunct/> <w:UseAsianBreakRules/> <w:DontGrowAutofit/> </w:Compatibility> <w:BrowserLevel>MicrosoftInternetExplorer4</w:BrowserLevel> </w:WordDocument></xml><![endif]--><br /><!--[if gte mso 9]><xml> <w:LatentStyles DefLockedState="false" LatentStyleCount="156"> </w:LatentStyles></xml><![endif]--><!--[if gte mso 10]><style> /* Style Definitions */ table.MsoNormalTable {mso-style-name:"Table Normal"; mso-tstyle-rowband-size:0; mso-tstyle-colband-size:0; mso-style-noshow:yes; mso-style-parent:""; mso-padding-alt:0in 5.4pt 0in 5.4pt; mso-para-margin:0in; mso-para-margin-bottom:.0001pt; mso-pagination:widow-orphan; font-size:10.0pt; font-family:"Times New Roman"; mso-ansi-language:#0400; mso-fareast-language:#0400; mso-bidi-language:#0400;} </style><![endif]--><!--[if gte mso 9]><xml> <o:shapedefaults v:ext="edit" spidmax="1026"/></xml><![endif]--><!--[if gte mso 9]><xml> <o:shapelayout v:ext="edit"> <o:idmap v:ext="edit" data="1"/> </o:shapelayout></xml><![endif]--> <br /><div class="MsoNormal">Don’t compare yourself to someone else. You are only you and only you are you. Confused? Don’t be. No matter how hard you try, you can’t be someone you’re not, and somebody who is not you can’t be you. Comparing yourself to other people leads to feelings of inadequacy and inferiority. Stop trying to better yourself by being someone else. Be a better you.</div><div class="MsoNormal"><br /></div><div class="MsoNormal">by Peaceful Purple Staffer</div><div class="MsoNormal">Marc Leeb </div></div>CP'S Blogsnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-452662497766494245.post-37991968083820995232013-05-08T11:37:00.001-07:002013-05-08T11:37:21.527-07:00Exercise regularly...<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on"><!--[if gte mso 9]><xml> <w:WordDocument> <w:View>Normal</w:View> <w:Zoom>0</w:Zoom> <w:PunctuationKerning/> <w:ValidateAgainstSchemas/> <w:SaveIfXMLInvalid>false</w:SaveIfXMLInvalid> <w:IgnoreMixedContent>false</w:IgnoreMixedContent> <w:AlwaysShowPlaceholderText>false</w:AlwaysShowPlaceholderText> <w:Compatibility> <w:BreakWrappedTables/> <w:SnapToGridInCell/> <w:WrapTextWithPunct/> <w:UseAsianBreakRules/> <w:DontGrowAutofit/> </w:Compatibility> <w:BrowserLevel>MicrosoftInternetExplorer4</w:BrowserLevel> </w:WordDocument></xml><![endif]--><br /><!--[if gte mso 9]><xml> <w:LatentStyles DefLockedState="false" LatentStyleCount="156"> </w:LatentStyles></xml><![endif]--><!--[if gte mso 10]><style> /* Style Definitions */ table.MsoNormalTable {mso-style-name:"Table Normal"; mso-tstyle-rowband-size:0; mso-tstyle-colband-size:0; mso-style-noshow:yes; mso-style-parent:""; mso-padding-alt:0in 5.4pt 0in 5.4pt; mso-para-margin:0in; mso-para-margin-bottom:.0001pt; mso-pagination:widow-orphan; font-size:10.0pt; font-family:"Times New Roman"; mso-ansi-language:#0400; mso-fareast-language:#0400; mso-bidi-language:#0400;} </style><![endif]--> <br /><div class="MsoNormal">Exercise regularly. Exercise is a great self-esteem builder because being active makes you feel better and improves your mood. It also increases productivity. Knowing that you are taking care of your own body helps you feel better about yourself. And who knows, you might find something new that you are really good at!</div><div class="MsoNormal"><br /></div><div class="MsoNormal">Written by Marc Leeb </div></div>CP'S Blogsnoreply@blogger.com0